They make it seem like it is you when it is not you at all.
Have recently made all reasonable attempt to let a former friend know that she can still contact me if she wants to or needs to, but that if she ever wants more than just a *little* bit of contact then she will need to work on *her own* communication problems and possibly other problems.
She nearly always tries to somehow make it seen like there *are no* problems of hers or the behavior problems/communication problems/whatever kind of problems have nothing to do with her. (She is not actually responsible for any of it herself, apparently. It just happens out of nowhere or someone else is to blame.)
Sigh. 🙄