Judge would never bother with splitting kitchen ware. That just isn’t happening. It will never be in a court order. Courts don't split mundane belongings. Judge would laugh at it. Ordering alimony or putting house for sale yes . Cook ware? No.

Honestly if a man insists on going through forks and spoons and splitting them, I’d be so appalled I’d pack them up and put them on the porch and use paper plates until I am ready to buy new stuff. Most people refresh and replace most kitchen stuff every that often anyways. Heirlooms should go to whoever brought them. Spending more than 2 minutes on thinking about kitchen ware is absolute waste of life. And we actually cook and have quite a bit of stuff. Still wouldn’t even give it a thought.

Even the fact that he wants to spend time splitting kitchen ware is an indication of him just being a jerk. And if he’s so destitute he can’t afford new plates he needs a second job and to stop smoking pot and going to bars. He’s bizarre