He bought a nice set of cookware the last time we separated. We also have a nice set of cookware from the wedding, which was a gift. He just took what he bought. He also bought a very nice set of silverware, so he took that, and I keep my older silverware that was placed in our storage. That is all.

We had agreed that we each keep either what we brought into the relationship, or what we each bought. I don't see the problem? We're splitting things up, which is what happens when someone moves out and when you separate. He needs cookware in his new place, as do I. I have to buy a new set of plates and bowls since he bought the set in our apartment and is taking it. I have to buy that this weekend.

We're both fairly broke. I've mentioned before that we live in one of the most expensive cities in the US. Affording an apartment on your own is tough. I am choosing to live by myself because I cannot even fathom having a roommate at this point in my life, and I CAN afford my apartment and bills, and still save some money. I think he's paying even less rent than me, but yes, he does spend a lot of money on weed each month. I have been conditioned to think this is relatively OK for mental health reasons, but he smokes every single day, and it is an addiction for him, so there's that. It's not just for medicinal purposes. He's actually addicted.

He's almost done moving things - he comes back on Monday, and I believe that should be the last and final trip. There's a few miscellaneous items, then there's his 2 cats, and their cat toys.

I am concerned about splitting up the 3 cats. I worry that my own 1-year old kitten will be lost without the other two cats in the home. I will have to watch her and give her loads of extra lovings to make sure she is OK. I really don't want to get another cat, but I will if she is crying all the time. I have to play that one by ear.