Thanks Una... But how about it being not necessarily for something that you are, but something that others perceive you as, or treat you as? Leading to you feeling shame when you 'shouldn't' .......

That's the change here. Rather than holding the shame maybe I can release it, because it doesn't actually belong to me. Mind blown. It's not even a feeling I really realised I had until last week, and now I'm considering the possibility of being able to release it!