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Oct 28, 2022, 08:22 PM
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Legendary Wise Elder
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Member Since: Jul 2011
Location: Tennessee
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Originally Posted by *Beth*
My spectacular sister died 4 years ago today. She was a mover, a doer, lived an life of electrified energy. Always had a hundred thoughts going on, and what a communicator! Tuned in to people, the kind of person who gave a gift that was so perfect the receiver wondered how "L." knew so well what to give. An observer who was wild about life and wow, did she live it!
My sis was fifteen (middle sister) when I was born and she was my guiding light. I idolized her. She met & married my (abusive) BIL when he'd just returned from Vietnam. He was a roadie and my sister was a vocalist for a rock band that is one of my favorites since forever. L. spent many decades doing drugs and always smoked. When she was 52 she had breast cancer, survived it, continued her career as soon as she could. Continued doing drugs & smoking. I never ragged on her about those things; she did what she did because that was who she was.
I was hysterical at her funeral (she died at age 69 of cancer/drug abuse that had ruined her heart), although I did read a eulogy that I was proud of, because I felt that it truly expressed my deep love for her.
I wish I had photos of her funeral. I could have made a memory book. There were a couple of hundred people there, sharing memories and uniting with each other. When her grave was lowered into the ground, the Jewish custom is for mourners to line up and each person picks up the shovel that is available, scoops up some dirt from a big pile, and tosses the dirt onto the top of the casket ("Ashes to ashes, dust to dust"). Well, the dirt ritual was being done while the rabbi chanted prayers. But then people got in line and tossed mementos into her grave. It was magnificent! The casket was absolutely covered with love people had to give to my precious sister.
I think she died at Halloween time because she loved the holiday and her wicked sense of humor kicked right in.
I miss her terribly, but I truly feel that she is with me. I feel her presence just any time I need her - or she has some tough words of advice for me 
Those are my thoughts this morning. I'm off to the store and I do believe I will treat myself to a 3 shot latte. I haven't had one in months.
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You’re sister sounds Amazing. What a joyous life she had. She is always with you 
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