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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
I think having people in my life who do listen and validate has helped me self validate, it’s become a natural habit/thought pattern if that makes sense.
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Agree! My first visit to a psychologist was a great relief because I understood I was not alone and I wasn’t do rare as I thought since a person was able to understand me and saw there are other people with similar problems to me.
Now, said that, validation (always understood with that wide meaning from a psychological point of view- I have to make this clear, because there’s another more common meaning that we are always know and that is a little different), well, as I said, sometimes validation itself falls short in what a support regards. It has been mentioned before some of these cases, but again, as I stated in one of my first posts, you need to know the person or at least all the circumstances the person are within.
Sometimes, a person talks too much online that you can connect the dots and you know.
Personally, I have received validation from many people but I’ve also received an ears pull and they have been both very useful. What I wanted? Validation. What was best for me at that moment? Maybe the last one.
If you are in denial, if you are constantly playing the victim role, looking for excuses, or even being deceitful. You are not gonna find validation on my part. No way.
P.S: Discom, Forgot this quote.
I wasn’t specifically referring to you. Only agreeing with the power of healing when you see than someone else can understand you.
Today, I’m a bit clumsy with the net. As usual. lol!