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Originally Posted by divine1966
Life without him does not need to be sad or lonely. Sure it’s normal to feel sad due to divorce but it shall pass. It helps to make changes in your routine too. Yeah going to places you frequented with him by yourself might reenforce lonely feeling. Well then don’t. Go do different things. If listening to bands by yourself saddens you then do other things. Divorce or break up is hard no matter how long you’ve been together. It’s normal. Do uplifting things and stay busy. Don’t do stuff that makes you feel worse
Also sometimes active/creative hobbies are better fit your mental health than passive ones. Passive is going sit and listen, while feeling depressed. Active hobby would be join a choir or a band. Passive is watching sport while feeling lonely. Active is join a league or a group at community center. You won’t be thinking about him as your mind and body will be occupied
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Where I went last night is somewhere new to me and is not an old haunt where he and I used to go. I actually wasn't even feeling lonely sitting there by myself at the time. I woke up feeling lonely, with not much to do on a Sat.
I know I will have to fill the void somehow and meet new people. I have made a couple of new friends already, which is nice. I plan on going out for Halloween with one of them on Monday night.
On the flip side, I am so thankful and am relishing in having no one trying to control everything I do, no one criticizing me, or fighting with me, or gaslighting me. I am free of all of that, and that helps with the loneliness factor. I'd rather be alone than dealing with any of that.