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Old Oct 30, 2022, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
I look at it as living without the static. Some people just provide static (like radio or tv static) to our lives. You cant hear or see what your program is.

What you wrote about leaving a narc really resonated with me. Although for me, it was my mother who held me back, pushed me down.

I wonder if H sees you as his parents, that he never broke away from? He never became an adult because his parents always provided. He abandons you but completely discounts it. He is not there for you, he is there for himself. You are just filling a hole in his life.
I look at it as falling into a thorn bush or a porcupine! It stings and hurts. Static doesn't hurt. Narcissists harm people & deliberately.

And yes, I think you are likely correct because his parents pampered him until the age of 32. He never grew up and never knew how to stand on his own two feet without a woman supporting him. I was a bank account and someone to use for his own needs & pleasures - that's it. And I was his emotional punching bag. No more.

I'm sorry your mom held you back and down. My dad did the same to me. It's been a lifelong battle to overcome.
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Thanks for this!
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