People with alcohol or drug use problems like to blame problems on others. They use alcohol to regulate their mood and it gets increasingly harder and they tend to be in denial.

If they stop drinking that doesn’t change the problem and can become a dry drunk. A person needs to be in a program along with therapy to identify and correct their problem. This is NOT the responsibility of a partner.

There is a lot more help and support than there used to be. It’s important you get support for the hurt you have resulting from having a partner that lives in the disease and all the delusions and illusions that lifestyle creates.