Thanks, everyone.

I guess my problem is that I have a strong need to stand up for myself whenever he tries to walk all over me.

Yesterday, it was you didn't call me on the day of the funeral - a statement deliberately made to make me feel guilty or bad about having made a boundary.

So I felt the need to stand up for myself and tell him - I sent flowers, didn't you get them? It turns out that my flowers did not arrive in time for the funeral - he didn't even see them - great - so I had to ask for a refund.

It's very difficult when I am a compassionate person and when his mother just died. It complicates matters. I have to express my sympathy without compromising my boundaries. It's a tough tight rope to be walking.

He is a big boy and should be able to handle his mother's death with other support other than me, though. I've already told him that I am no longer "that person" for him - creating a boundary.

Yet still, he tries to constantly cross my boundaries by making these kinds of statements - and I know it's disrespect and disregard.

I told him yesterday that he has no respect for my wishes and needs, so he threw that one right back in my face to say the same thing about me.

ONE more trip to the apartment and he is DONE with moving. Then I can stop these types of interactions far better. He wanted to come here again during the day today and I said NO. It disrupts my work and I will not allow it. He is coming Wed eve after work instead. I will make sure he takes everything left at that point.