I really appreciate your posts Bill on this subject, for me this is quite pertinent at the moment as there’s someone I was very close friends with who has had a lot of hurt but has not consistently treated others well (they believe others actions justify this, I don’t agree).

I have instinctively done as you said, validating where appropriate only but it’s been difficult to know how to handle situations where they haven’t behaved kindly to others. I have stayed silent so far but I’m unsure if I’m doing the right thing doing so.

Sorry, I hope I’m not derailing this topic.