And, speaking of boundaries... I have to be very careful.

I ran into an old college friend 3 weeks ago - a male - whom I haven't seen in about 25 or more years. He is kind of gluing himself onto me, extending multiple invites for me to stay over at his house overnight (he lives with his mother and does not work due to a physical illness), in order to escape from my husband.

He now has extended an offer to pay for my legal fees if they are too high for me. I've had to place some strong boundaries and say no to each invite and to him wanting to pay my legal fees. I told him I do not borrow from friends,. and that if I must borrow money I will ask my mother.

He is also telling me he loves me (as a friend) and that I need "safe" males to be around. He's crossing all sorts of boundaries, in my opinion. I am wary, even IF he IS an old friend. We were never that close in college, yet he stated to someone else recently that we were "best friends". Not true.

I want to be very careful about who I let into my close circle. I am holding him at arms length.