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Originally Posted by smileygal
Sorry to hear things are so hard right now. Why do you think he wants to end therapy? Has he ever mentioned therapy ending? Has he shared that this is his approach to ending things with clients? Most good therapists I think would not consciously this route as it would likely be very confusing and damaging for the client. Is it possible he is making a lot of bad decisions or mistakes lately that are causing ruptures.
My therapist has said they would just tell me if they felt that maybe needed to try something different which they did.
At the end of you post it sounds like you have stopped your therapy? Did you just decide not to go back?
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He just does things that he knows will hurt me or mess with my head. Like telling me about his wife working in the room...he didn't have to tell me that, I would never have known anyway. He knows that room was my only safe space.
When I bring these things up as issues, he never takes responsibility, basically implies I'm projecting on to him etc. Or sometimes he says he will 'fix' it, but never does. Yesterday he started the session with 'so what would you like to talk about?' for no reason...he knows I hate that, and I never have trouble telling him what's on my mind, so the only reason to say it was to piss me off. I told him he was treating me like he didn't know me, again, and that it was so formal...he just repeats what I say.
Honestly the main issue for me is connecting with a person, how can I spend over 5 years in any kind of relationship and never have it grow...he is literally no closer to me than he was at the start. I don't see the point in wasting any more time there when he refuses to connect with me.
I know he will never just tell me he wants me to end therapy, because it's not professional. He's never suggested we work in a different way when something doesn't work. It used to feel like he really cared about me, I don't know if that was all pretend though.