Your wife has announced her plans. My advice is to figure out yours, and not allow yourself to be paralyzed by hope or your desire not to get divorced.

Do you have an attorney? I think you should.

It must have been hard to hear her announce her plans to leave while simultaneously criticizing you for considering doing the exact same thing.

It also must have been hard to hear her say that you are not treating her like a partner (when she already announced, and long made clear, that she isn't one).

If your son is out of high school then he no longer is obligated to be parented, much less co-parented, by anyone. He is his own man, and his offer to you is completely within bounds. What do you think of his offer? Keeping in mind that you need an actual plan for April.

(Be mindful in the future that anything you tell your kids can get back to your wife.)

In general, I urge you to ignore her accusations and guilt trips.

(She, not you, turned the kids against her.)

She's always going to blame you for everything.

How is your daughter doing? What will happen to her in April?