My oldest is pursuing a trade through a union.

He'll be making a very good wage by January.

His plan.... We buy a place together, fix it, sell it. Repeat. Build a financial cushion. He said, "I've got money, but you have a credit history. We need to do this together."

Buy places close to younger kids school so that younger kid can stay with us and not change schools.

Younger kid asked him if we could all live together, because doesn't want to live with Mom, and doesn't want him to move away yet.

Oldest asked me if we live like this for five years, until the youngest is out of school.

I'm exploring ways to generate more income. I appreciate my son's offer, and have told him so, and told him I don't want him to feel he has to take on this degree of responsibility. I'm the Dad. It's my role, and he has a place with me. He's not expected to sacrifice himself for us.

I love my wife. I still "see" her through all this. But she's pushed this so far there's no easy return. She told the kids her plans, including April departure, over a month ago.

But me trying to figure out a way forward and talking to the oldest about it is wrong??? Even though he was intears worried about the future on his own.

You guys know there are two rules for success.

1) Don't reveal everything you know.


RDM