Now that you've set boundries and used them very successfully, you've gotten back some control. Remember this feeling you have now... its your self esteem increasing.

You mentioned a type of withdrawal that is very real. People who have endured abuse have to adjust to not being abused. For some it takes a few weeks, for others it takes their whole life. Be patient with yourself as you adjust and heal. Focus on the future so you know which way to go.