So here's what happened, and now I want to talk about it.
I made an acquaintance with a couple. They're very nice, open and friendly and they kind of adopted me since I was going to this one music venue each week on Wed nights by myself.
Well, last night the 3 of us had made a plan to drive together to a different music venue that is about 40 minutes from where I live. The plan was to meet at a hotel bar at 6:15 and leave by 7. Well, I arrived at the bar at 6:15, and they ended up keeping me waiting there BY MYSELF for an entire hour. They arrived separately, in two separate cars around 6:25 and they both went up to their hotel room together. She needed to change her clothing, yet it took her 45 minutes. I am fairly certain they decided to have sex while making me wait.
I called my best girlfriend at 7, when they still hadn't met me, and I was fuming. She said it was really inconsiderate and rude of them to make me wait all that time at the bar by myself. And I agreed.
I had even texted the guy to ask at one point if I should just go home, because I I had been waiting an hour. They finally show up, but for me, this put a very dark cloud over the entire evening. I never really recovered from it and I kept my distance from them while at the music venue, for the most part. I gave them space to be by themselves, and I had another friend (who showed up) to hang out with instead.
But then, at the end of the night, I was dependent on the couple for the 40-minute ride back to the hotel where my car was parked. Because they had to dilly dally even more and it took forever to get back to the hotel, I didn't get to my car until 1:30 AM.
I was pissed at myself for relying on them for a ride. I was kicking myself for not having gone by myself so that I could leave the music venue whenever I wanted.
So, I had to wait until the end of the show to leave, I was anxious to leave and showed that to the woman of this couple. I was like, "let's rally Sam and get going. I am exhausted".
Then the woman on the drive kept calling her boyfriend an as*s, right in front of me. At some point, he was like, that isn't nice. So, here I was sitting in the back of the car, while this kind of banter was going on.
They dropped me off finally, I thanked them and left. I cried all the way home, thinking I had made a huge mistake in breaking up with my husband. I was missing him and missing having a companion to these shows.
So, that was my awful night.
I am discarding these two. It was SO rude of them to make me wait that long, and it tells me a LOT about who they are.
I will never do that to myself again, and I backed out of the concert I was supposed to attend next Friday with the guy and another female friend of his. I don't want to go now, and I don't want to rely on this guy again for anything.
And that's why I felt SO alone last night and awful. It was terrible.
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