Sounds like you encountered irresponsible jerks (are they very young?). It doesn’t mean you need to go back to your husband. You just aren’t meeting nice people yet

Honestly you just met these people. You need to take longer before you commit to getting 40 minute rides from them and going to venues together. They might be bad drivers or drive intoxicated. Take longer to get to know people. And maybe on a deeper level. You can’t really get to know people well in bars with music blasting and likely boozing going on. So far almost everyone you meet at these places turn out to be a disaster, your husband, his terrible flirty female friends, these jerks etc None of them seem to have much substance

When we are lonely, we attract the worst people. Both romantically and friendship wise. I’ve met awful people whenever I was lonely. Just attracted weirdos.

You need people with more depth.