Not sure if this will be helpful but reading your last post and the validation you got from the pastor, really I don’t see that it should be a question of you being a good person or not. You shouldn’t feel like your character is on trial here. It’s a marriage breakdown not a criminal trial of one person.

Your previous post about your wife comes across to me as a one sided litany of complaints about your short comings. I’m not reading acknowledgment of her contribution to relationship difficulties? Does she acknowledge her contribution?