((((((((((Griffe))))))))))))))

Okay, first - cognitive distortions. Feeling bad doesn't make you bad - feelings are not absolute, they change.

I do understand how hard it is to accept the positive when all we've heard is the negative at a younger age... I had another argument with a person actually an hour or so ago. He said I was beautiful. I said I wasn't (don't feel I am). So I had to admit defeat when he said ... well, some people are entitled to think that you're beautiful, even if you think they're wrong (or crazy!)

I hate whining too... but I'm good at it sometimes. Other times I feel redundant, like I'm just saying the same stuff over and over again... I also think I drag people down talking about stuff too. (Doesn't help when some people agree with that either!)

You are not alone. I promise. It takes time to heal and decide how you really feel about who you are.

Do YOU think you're worthless or stupid? Or can you rephrase that and say maybe - "sometimes I make bad decisions"?

Do YOU think you whine too much? Or maybe you just think that you're going through a hard time and just venting?

Do YOU think you're bad and useless, or do you believe that everyone has a purpose, and that 99.99% of people aren't bad?

Would you call anyone any of the things you think you are?

.... I'm sorry. I have a tendency to go overboard sometimes with trying to help. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, I don't intend to be. Sometimes my help sounds more like a lecture or a therapy session.

((((((((((Vince)))))))))))))

Can I tell you who I think you are (from my perspective)?

I think you're a nice guy, who's just going through a tough time, and who hasn't had an easy life up to this point. I think you're hard on yourself, but that's understandable. I think you're a wonderful person, and definetely worthy of love and respect.

Now I'm just going to send you some 'love'

PM me anytime if you want to vent. I promise you, if I'm busy I'll tell you... but I'm extending the invitation, to say whatever you want to me.