If she is in a mental health crisis, then being a defensive so-and-so isn't the right course of action. Acting and thinking from a place of love is important.

I'm going to speak to her about this tonight. I expect one of two possibilities: she will agree that he needs support and understand that, or not be receptive to seeing things from his perspective.

If it is the second one, regardless of if she is in a crisis, I think I am going to have to leave.

I am wrestling with this so much, in part because right now I feel more at peace after talking to my wife yesterday and getting a more reasonable response.

BUT I KNOW a person can reach a point of conditioning that they return and return to a bad situation just because it is familiar.