Dear T,
That was a really kind, supportive, reassuring response. It made me tear up in a good way. Thank you. And I understand now.

I do think much of this reaction was due to the main topic. And it's easier to worry about overstaying my welcome and asking you about than to wonder whether I've been a good enough mother and think of all the things I could have done differently in the past 11.5 years. Maybe we should continue that Monday, or maybe I should put that topic on pause until H's surgery and maybe a week or two after. Yes, pausing is likely the best option, aside from day-to-day issues that may come up with her when I'm the primary caregiver for that week.

Love,
LT