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rdgrad15 · Nov 12, 2022, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by nonightowl

People seem to vent on me too or admit stuff to me, whether it's about holiday parties or not. It can be anything. But I don't mind because it implies trust and comfort in telling me something.

And now I'm venting on YOU in this thread.

We used to have birthday parties for co-workers too.

I remember joining a new department (same company, just different department) in the 90's and I was blindsided by a "party" for my birthday. I didn't expect it or want it. It felt like such an invasion of my privacy and feelings. Sure it had good intentions but I didn't like the attention on me from people I just met days earlier. I haven't even interacted with them much as a result. In hindsight, maybe it was just an excuse to pig out on junk food.

Anyway this department did this birthday thing for everyone and I dreaded it. I think I told the manager I preferred no party because I remember just that one time. Or maybe I blocked it out, LOL. It WAS 30 years ago. Other than that, it was a good company with a lot of benefits, something that's scarce nowadays.

I don't mind it when people vent to me as well since it does imply trust which is good. I also hate birthday celebrations at work too because I don't like the attention and it's just an excuse to pig out on food. I know it has good intentions but I'm just not that big on celebrations and in a lot of cases those celebrations seem rather forced as well. I'd much rather treat my birthday as any other day since it's really nothing special for me and don't get into all the hype.