Um - now SHE can put up with his whining about his back hurting, and enjoy not even being able to go pee in the morning.

This was not something i ever worried about with my exes. If they were that great, i would have stayed with them.

And your statement - i told him he could date - why do you think you have ANY control over him? Or over anyone besides yourself? I think this is codependence. Trying to alter the world so it suits you. But its simply not true that their changing would make you feel or do better.

Why arent you out jogging?! Thats the only thing that helps.

Sorry im cranky - im in physical pain from i dont know what.

Plus, you gotta learn to read when women are coming on to you, either on their own behalf or for a threesome with their husband. You are an attractive free spirit but i think not THAT free!