The one way to not start dating on rebound is to think that 99.99% of the time when people date on rebound they meet the most horrible terrible awful dates.

I’ve met awful fully awful men when I dated on rebound. When my daughter widowed, she ended up with awful horrible man she was lonely and started dating. Thankfully she ran and ran fast.

It never ever ends well with a very few exceptions here and there. I had a therapist who advised a minimum of a year/18 months with no dates.

So the way to stop yourself from dating is to ask yourself if you want to meet men 10 times worse than your husband. Because that’s who you’ll attract. You aren’t even dating and you already attract very strange characters. And they all feel like they have to save you. That’s a bad red flag. Do not date! No way you can attract a decent man now just out of marriage and you sure don’t want a jerk or a predator

As about if your husband dates or not. It’s not important and has no meaning. No one will stick around anyways. He is in his 50s with no permanent living arrangement, still married, always broke, high every day and always complaining. If someone wants him, you should rejoice it’s not you.