You don’t have to be mean and cold to have boundaries. You made some mistakes, you are human and you have admitted your wrongs and have been accountable. So you had hard times and got help from parents. A lot of people have experienced that, it’s hard to make it out there and have a home and autos and insurance and all the expenses.

You have a right to have boundaries. And that was something you did not really have with your alcoholic parent.