Dear HaveHope,

I was so different from you. I NEVER missed any of the narcs that came into my life. Once I was done with them, because they had done SO much damage (and some, before they managed to get those claws and sharp teeth into me), I was extremely relieved to put as much space between us as was humanly possible---emotionally as well as physically.

I no longer held the "good times" up as any kind of elevated or cherished memories, because it had all been theater: a revolving door of falsehoods, lies, manipulation and mask-wearing.

It helped to continually remind myself of that good advice that I shared with you: We women, or anybody who has suffered emotional abuse, HAS TO LEARN to be their own best friend. Give yourself the kind of attention you wish you had from a genuinely good and caring friend. That is Step 1.

I Googled "Healing from trauma bond", and all kinds of really helpful articles came up. I really hope you will apply yourself to this healing effort.

Healing from truma bond - Google Search

As always, sent with my usual protective good wishes....xxoo