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Default Nov 14, 2022 at 02:53 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
OP's wife has not been giving loving reactions for a long time. My impression from OP's posts is that she will complain and attack no matter what he does, and she didn't support him when did come to her. Thus, in my view, OP would be wise to disregard her complaints, not take her criticisms to heart, and focus on getting himself and his kids to safety.
Good points.

Trying to understand why other people do what they do is often a waste of time as we can not get a full answer and we can’t change the outcome. We can only try to understand why WE do what we do and we can only control and change what we do. Not what others do.

If she wants to question why are abused people seeking help from their parents/family/close friends, then she is really clueless. It’s only normal and expected for people in drastic situations seek help from loved ones. And if help was financial, then she needs to understand that if she is refusing to contribute to family’s finances, then she puts her family in a situation where they sometimes have to seek help elsewhere. Not for her to question it
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