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lauren_helene said:
it's just that I can tell he doesn't feel comfy with all the neediness. /quote]

I wonder about this. I have been so sure I knew how my T felt about SO many things, and been completely, 100% wrong.

When I was recently on vacation, I called him and asked him for a message to tide me over until I came home. He left the message and I was positive he was irritated with me, if not downright angry. Ugh. When I came home and said something about it in session, he was totally confused...because he wasn't angry with me at all. And I listened to the message with this new information, and he doesn't even sound angry OR irritated in it. It was all me, projecting my fears onto him, but it seemed SO REAL.

I wonder if maybe your T is totally comfortable with your neediness, but YOU are not, so you're projecting that onto him??

I am desperately needy for T. I literally had NO CLUE how big this pit of need inside of me was until I started T. I've always been totally independent, and this is new, and scary, and uncomfortable, and embarrassing. It's so hard for me to let myself have this need, and I spend a lot of time fighting with myself about it. But the more I can just accept it, and be vulnerable, the better therapy gets.

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