David sounds a bit like my father - certainly the selfishness and the stuffy, old family. Is David mean with money too?

I understand being angry (re his horrible selfishness and all the harm it causes)

My father's lifestyle didn't look good for his career, (or his ''friends'') so he made up and kept up a massive lie (and my mother colluded with it )

Grrr at Charles too!

You deserve so much better