Hi Motts,
I'm so sorry about all of this.
I don't know what the solution is. But I do see one thing. You are an analyzer & a planner, looking at everything. And I think this experience is teaching you a lot, & it will probably help you in your future. I hope everything works out for you.
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"Every moment is a fresh beginning." (T. S. Eliot)
"Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines."(Robert H. Schiuller)
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