That's exactly it! Behaving exactly as her mother did and vehemently denies it. Obsessing, yes, especially about things she has no control over. There's a problem with self-awareness. Allowing others to wind her up. My brother does criticise but in a "fun" way, so she thinks that's fine. Even he has lost patience recently, something she's found it very hard to accept.

Won't use walk-in shower unless I'm there. Ongoing problems with it working properly another angst. Few weeks ago, hinted again at me becoming her carer. Am not that type of person. I'll offer practical help but just can't do the personal things (can still wash herself). She has a cleaner who used to be a carer, so gets a lot more help there.

She has too much time to sit and imagine what people are saying about her. She's openly accused me and my aunt of gossiping. We're not and however many times I deny it, she's still fixated.