Certain things can't be hurried, but they do evolve in their own time.
I try not to make lists of ''bad'' things and send them to someone else...
I try to think what other people's triggers might be so as NOT to trigger them (sometimes I might think or guess wrongly)....
I might make a list of ''bad'' things and tear it up.
To be in the NOW ... this present moment.
Practising non striving... what is here is ''enough''. A tremendous discipline.
I apologize if this doesn't make ''enough'' sense. It might to me if I check it out again