I do hug and kiss my husband during the day, and he likes that.

I do need to bring the issue up with him again. We used to like massaging each other with lotion. Maybe he'd go for that.

I've read that some women don't like the hugging and kissing because they fear the man would then expect something more from them. Just a thought.

There are fake men's and women's parts that some people use for enjoyment. We've used a dildo at some point in the past. Maybe you could check out the female version (when your wife is not around?)