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Originally Posted by divine1966
Hi Tisha I miss seeing you here. Glad yo see you back.
Aging parents could be a challenge. I hear you.
My dad often flat refuses help but then complains about not getting help. It’s constant push pull. It’s hard for the elderly to come to terms with aging and they often make it hard on the rest of us. This dynamic is so common
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Yes, part of what my mother has habitually done is exactly that; complain about not getting help then refusing it! She is immensely contrarian. So there’s never any making her happy. She makes it impossible. I guess she just wants to be miserable. She and I do not have that in common. At least, I don’t do that.
There are things she did/does that I swore I would never do, so toxic and abusive. For the most part, I succeeded at never doing them. However, this is my main issue with myself… I compulsively became like her in the conflict with my husband way, differently, There is a trigger he activates in me and I “act out” and have meltdowns.
I am working hard at trying to stop this vicious cycle.