I’m sorry you are going through this. Your husband refusing to discuss is very painful and frustrating. You need to protect yourself and get an attorney asap. A therapist would also be helpful for you emotionally. If the relationship was very good (as you saw it), and he suddenly flipped on you, it’s very shocking and hard to handle your emotions. You may feel right now like you can’t live without him, but you can. Be gentle with yourself and get through this. Sending you strength and support.