I must have been typing while you were and didn’t see your post #8 before.

What you described sounds somewhat encouraging. He did voice some concerns that you think you can maybe work on. Not that I am jumping to any conclusions that you do need to change anything about yourself that he addressed. But it’s maybe something to look at. It sounds like you had a good relationship, if not too dependent though.

I can relate to what you are feeling about fear of being independent. This may have been part of his issue with you. You will have to work on this for yourself either way, whether you are able to get back together or do get divorced.

If he’s not speaking to you right now, I wouldn’t push it. There may be opportunity to talk as the divorce progresses. It isn’t final until it is.