@*Beth*, my comments are not aimed at making his wife out to be the "devil". These issues have been ongoing for years now, and for years he has been badly mistreated by his wife. I am simply pointing out the fact that she is abusive, she gets away with it all, and the kids cannot even stand her, in knowing how badly and poorly she behaves. She has never treated the OP right. And this I have observed from afar for a very very long time now. We all have.