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Originally Posted by unaluna
In the 80's, we used to say, "Be assertive, not aggressive." For a minute there, i thought assertive was the negative one. Or maybe times have changed.
I once told my mother, dont think because i didnt respond to your insult, that it didnt register. Boy that stopped her in her tracks. She thought she was getting away with carp all that time. But as my dad used to say, someone has to keep the peace or else there would be arguments all the time. But it did not make for a happy family.
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Yep it's always interesting to see people's reaction when you are assertive and they're not expecting it. Sometimes it's genuine shock and other times it's verbal retaliation which is usually the case. I agree I like to try to keep the peace as well and I've always been that way since I really don't like confrontation. Also I used to think being assertive meant you were aggressive as well which technically it can be if your assertive in a hostile way which I've seen happen before.