I came to the same conclusion. I want to help her, but whether she wants to use what I gave or not, she's going to do what she want's to do. I hope she does though. I told her that I'd understand if she doesn't want me knowing who she is on the site, because I know that would make me feel uneasy unless I told that person I said it was okay.
I don't think I went too far, rather just enough. I just wanted to get anyone's opinion on if they think it was the right thing to do. I'm not going to judge anyone, I just want honesty.