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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul
I had a freeze response if someone attacked me verbally. People figured out I was a safe person to vent,emotionally dump and I won't retaliate. Did it start in your childhood? Such people are afraid of people, who fight back,put a boundary or retaliate.They identify and then target people who tolerate their emotional toxic dump.What I do is...if done repeatedly I go low contact with such person.They will find another target.I don't believe healthy discussions are possible with such people ,when their primary objective is to crap all over you to relieve themselves of their emotional diarrhea, so to speak.
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I have the same freeze response, I just take whatever people say to me unless it's so outrageous that something needs to be said. It definitely started in childhood, I wasn't really allowed to stand up for myself or be assertive, any form of assertion was met with a verbal retaliation so bad that if I was much older and able to just walk out of the house then I would've done so since the urge to just simply walk out was there. I also go low contact with people like that as well, if I sense they're in a bad mood then I will avoid them too until I know they're in a good mood. It's one thing if they just want to talk about something that happened and need someone to listen to and I'm okay with that, it's another thing to absolutely lose your crap on someone just because you know they won't do anything about it and you see them as a punching bag and can get away with it.