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Originally Posted by eskielover
I always tried to be diplomatic with my assertiveness even way back in grade school (almost 70 now). Many took that as not meaning what I said. They regretted pushing the issue because when pushed past my boundary they soon learned to never do it again. There were times when hearing people say "don't mess with her" I knew my point had come across loud & clear. Growing up I pretty much had to stand alone & even during my marriage. Took me quite awhile to learn over the last 15 years what it is like to have people standing there with me & some people are still learning not to mess with me but now I have a strong community standing with me
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That's good you've learned to be assertive. Yeah I try to be diplomatic too since I don't want to come off as overly rude or arrogant when I'm being assertive. That's another reason I'm not very assertive because I don't want people to see me as rude or arrogant. Unfortunately I have seen people who are very arrogant try to play the assertive card to get their way so that's why I'm careful to not cross that line.