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Nov 25, 2022 at 06:45 AM
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Originally Posted by rdgrad15
That's good you've learned to be assertive. Yeah I try to be diplomatic too since I don't want to come off as overly rude or arrogant when I'm being assertive. That's another reason I'm not very assertive because I don't want people to see me as rude or arrogant. Unfortunately I have seen people who are very arrogant try to play the assertive card to get their way so that's why I'm careful to not cross that line.
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Thing is that if nice doesn't work with some people then I get firm & direct & let them know I gave them a chance & they blew it. Lol....the older I get the less I care about not crossing a line but mostly I work at communicating my thoughts firmly in the first place so people know exactky where I stand. If they don't like it then they can choose not to associate with me.....no loss but they don't take their anger out on me because there will be a battle & they usually don't want to go there.
I think DBT interpersonal relationships section is a really good place to start for strengthening assertiveness skills. It reinforced skills I already had & taught me others.
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