So, a few things:

I've realized that my husband used to try and ruin almost every holiday, birthday or major family event. I've read that narcissists do this because these occasions make their partner happy and also take the attention away from the narcissist. So they deliberately sabotage special occasions for these reasons.

He would fight with me instead on many special occasions, almost ruining the entire celebration.

Also, yesterday on Thanksgiving Day, I did hear from him around 4 PM, to my surprise. He wanted to wish me a nice meal and a good night, but then he sent me a photo of himself at his friend's home. I asked him why he was sending me a photo and he said, it's a different way for me to say goodnight. I didn't reply to his last text. I did not want to fight or argue, so I just didn't reply.

Even though I felt bored and alone on Thanksgiving Day until I was able to see my mom, well, I thought at least I am not having to deal with my husband trying to fight with me and ruin the day! One year on Thanksgiving, he manufactured a fight with me and then refused to join my family's dinner. Instead, I had to bring him a plate of food home. He ruined Thanksgiving for me that year.

So, bottom line: they need to be the center of attention and therefore when it's taken from them, they have to spoil the day by fighting with you.