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Originally Posted by divine1966
He’s weaseling in again. It’s not normal to wish your soon to be ex to have a nice meal (why does he know your plans for holidays?) . Even in the most amicable divorces, this just isn’t normal.
And didn’t he say he has no where to go? Again a lie. He had a thanksgiving with friends, which was obviously planned. He sends you pics of himself to get you feel lonely without him, jealous that he has company for holidays or even wonder if these friends brought single female for his company.
It’s all a ploy. To keep you hooked. I don’t understand you keep communicating with him on a daily basis. I get a need to discuss a lawyer bill but that’s not a daily communication. It’s one time thing. Ok maybe bills need to be discussed monthly ok maybe weekly, but why all this? It’s not healthy
He sends you a pic? Delete. Don’t respond. It’s obvious why he sent it. To keep himself relevant and to keep this back and forth nonsense going.
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I did not reach out to him. And I did reply initially, but then I stopped replying.
I agree it's all a ploy - I think the photo was sent to get me to miss him. All a manipulation. The good news is: I didn't feel a single thing and I wasn't missing him at all, not even when he sent the photo of himself.
I am trying to keep communications at a bare minimum. Now, there's little reason for us to be in touch other than about the divorce. I don't plan on contacting him, and if I do hear from him about anything other than divorce, I will grey rock him and will cease the communication.
The more distance I get the better off I feel. I am slowly healing and I am slowly recovering. I am still vulnerable though, so I know I need to be very careful in all ways.