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Originally Posted by eskielover
Thing is that if nice doesn't work with some people then I get firm & direct & let them know I gave them a chance & they blew it. Lol....the older I get the less I care about not crossing a line but mostly I work at communicating my thoughts firmly in the first place so people know exactky where I stand. If they don't like it then they can choose not to associate with me.....no loss but they don't take their anger out on me because there will be a battle & they usually don't want to go there.
I think DBT interpersonal relationships section is a really good place to start for strengthening assertiveness skills. It reinforced skills I already had & taught me others.
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Yeah that is true, some people really need to learn the hard way. I see what you mean by not caring as much as you get older, I'm that way to a certain extent when it comes to people my own age. I'm not afraid to tell it like it is in a tactful manner, some people need the wake up call. It's dealing with people much older that I need to work on, I need to work on being more verbally assertive without them trying to make me look bad because they perceive me as being disrespectful even though I'm an adult as well since some older adults still see adults at least 10 years younger than them as children in a sense and there's even been some older adults that talked to me the same way you would talk to a child which isn't appropriate and that's one of the places I need to draw the line at.