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Old Nov 25, 2022, 09:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Nammu View Post
Sounds like you are pushing buttons and accusing him of things he has not done. You pushed him so far he finally said look, if I was going to sleep with others I had the opportunity to do so, and I didn’t. You continued to push the issue so now he’s trying to prove to you , you have no reason to be so suspicious. He’s giving you chances to see he hasn’t done anything. Instead you are make an issue out of it. You need to see a therapist and work on your trust issues. Tell him lovingly that he no longer needs to prove anything to you. That you are going to step up and be accountable for your lack of trust by seeing someone for it.
Where in her post is she accusing him and where in her post is she pushing his buttons? I don't see this at all.

She's been cheated on more than once. He possibly is cheating on her or wants to cheat, given his comment, though we do not know anything or what his intentions are in making that comment.

It's offensive to say go work on your trust issues with a therapist. It's not her fault she's been cheated on in the past, and she has not had trust issues with this man thus far, as stated in the OP, until his recent comment, which is certainly suspect.
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