There is something else that happened last year when I had a TIA... she acted really weird about some of my health issues - like she was blaming me for them - and made me feel like I ought to be ashamed.

And then there is the fact that I have owned up to mistakes I've made in our marriage - and apologized - she has never acknowledged any mistakes or made any apologies. It's like she's pretending that she is never at fault.

I thought that our finances might change for the better next year... now it looks like it will be more like a minimum of 16 months.