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Default Nov 28, 2022 at 06:10 PM
 
I think many marriages struggle because people marry someone who does ABC and doesn’t do XYZ. But people really want someone who does XYZ but doesn’t do ABC. So people spend their entire life trying to get their partners become someone they aren’t.

Of course people change and conform to each other needs but only up to a point. At our core we don’t change that much. You don’t go to produce shop to buy dairy. They don’t have it. They can’t give it to you. And scorpion will sting a frog, for a simple reason “that’s who he is”.

Certainly we should try to be better partners and hope our partners get better. But at some point if it’s not happening then one only has two options: accept the reality that’s who your spouse is (don’t recommend accepting abuse) so you start enjoying other things in life or you leave.

Of course the third option is to stick around and fight (with your partner or with yourself), and be miserable. It doesn’t sound appealing. Life is too short.
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