This video is potentially TRIGGERING
This is the science behind what is happening.
In my case, it is only rejection within this specific struggle over the intimacy issue. Neither of us are doing the extreme behaviors noted in the video. The worst part of my situation is that we are fighting and that I am being harmed with emotional dysregulation. The whole thing is very harmful for us both.

Sam Vaknin The Intimate Partner as a Persecutory Object: Love is a Battlefield - YouTube